Session 4: Discipline and Beyond
Discipline varies from person to person. What we believe about discipline is a result of our personal experiences, ideals, values, beliefs and what we were taught. Discipline is often seen as punishment but discipline can also be teaching and guidance. Discipline is a long term process that helps children respond to events in their life. It helps them navigate their world, make sense of it, and respond to it. Discipline can promote and emphasize respect, especially when children are given respect during the process. Guidance is a more effective method of discipline in the long run.
Parents of young children should also be aware about the influence of temperament on parenting. Every person has their own temperament, aspects to their personality and makes them an individual. Children's responses to their world are related to their temperament.Temperament is related to a child's overall energy level, their response to change, how they react to new people and places, their general mood, focus, regularity, physical sensitivity, persistence, will-power and attention span.
Parenting issues generally surface when there is a a mismatch of temperaments between you and your child. Think about how your energy level, overall mood, response to change, reactions to new people and places, focus/distractability, persistence, etc. Then focus on your child's. Often we expect our children to respond in a similar manner to us. Letting go of those expectations an allowing our children to be who they are and respond to life in their own way can help resolve the conflict.
For more information on punishment, guidance and consequences visit our blog posts:
Why Spanking Doesn't Work
True Child Discipline Takes Time
Really? Punishment is 'Out'
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